Hi, mydogbrew.
First, welcome to the forum! Second, that bit at the top of this section that says, "IMPORTANT: Please post your EXACT recipe, ALL ingredients and the quantities you used." ? That really IS important.
We can't tell you anything about your mead unless we know what's in it. And if you have a hydrometer, your starting and current gravities will be useful too. Otherwise all we can do is offer general advice.
Generally, it sounds like you're on the right track, that's a reasonable amount of time for a fermentation to be complete.
Generally, the worst offender for autolysis is Lalvin 71B and even it won't cause you problems until about 6 weeks in, so you're safe for at least that long.
Generally, you don't want to leave it sitting on the lees for too long but you also don't want to rack it before it's done fermenting, that can sometimes stop the fermentation. And swirling it around in the later stage of fermentation can be beneficial by keeping the yeast in suspension, it's more likely to finish its job that way.
Generally, once you've racked it, you'll want to let it sit a few months before bottling, but if there's any sugar left in it at all, you'll want to treat it with sulphite and sorbate to stabilize it so you don't inadvertently make bottle bombs. There have been cases of dormant yeast waking up two years later. And yes, the yeast will still be in there, even if it looks perfectly clear and you think everything has settled out.