Hi. Those are sort of relative questions. If you learn a method/protocol, execute on it, and it turns out great, then you think all is well and that can be replicated over and over. However, we're dealing with a different biomass each time no matter what you do the same. What happens when things go wrong, or you want to try something different? My point is you need to understand why you're doing what you're doing. You can do that a lot easier by investing the time in the GotMead podcasts for modern mead making protocols starting back in Sept 5, 2017.
As to your question, there's more than one way to skin a cat. Of course, make sure everything is sanitized first. What I do is take basically a large turkey baster, suck up the mead, deposit it into the tube, and repeat until I have enough volume to take a reading. If there's a lot of foam, I'll suck that off the top. When done, I put the must in the tube back in the fermentation vessel. Check out
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Benchmarks will vary based on starting SG, yeast, and other factors. In general, I'll usually take a SG reading at the end of day 2 to see how things are progressing. There is such as thing as too fast, and I have that problem more often than not. Once a fermentation is going at a good pace (generally), I'd say 7+ gravity points per day is a good start, but a little less doesn't necessarily mean there's a problem. Your biggest benchmark is the 1/3 sugar break and/or the 7th day if you're using SNA (Staggered Nutrient Additions). Whichever one of those comes first should be your 4th/last feeding. The main point is that SG is moving down. Once you get 3 of the same SG readings (different days), then you're ferment has likely stopped.
At that point is when you can start thinking about racking, stabilizing, aging, bottling, etc. The more you test, the more you'll find that a good ferment means the mead is very drinkable, if not downright really good right after fermentation. It only gets better with a little aging, but it doesn't have to be that long. If you really like it, and want to drink it right away, then go for it!